My MIL lives in the same state as us - but 4.5 hours away by herself. She is in rapidly declining health and we are seeing signs of mental decline as well. Her most recent hospital stay was due to blood clots and severe rapid onset pain in her neck from stenosis. She was discharged this week into a skilled nursing home for rehab. Despite the plan my husband and case worker had agreed upon, they moved her without contacting him and into the worst NH facility we've ever seen. It is awful and we don't trust they care she is getting there.
After seeing her current condition and state of mind, It's pretty apparent she is not going to improve. She is bed-ridden, incontinent, and still in a lot of pain. She's lost her will to live and isn't willing to try with the physical therapists to do anything to better herself. We have no idea what to do once her 20 days of paid medicare coverage are over. The only thing we know, is we must move her to our town to be closer to us. My husband does have DPOA.
Is it possible to transfer her here to another nursing home closer to us, and Medicare still cover the care?
How do we move her that far - 4.5 hour drive? I assume there is no financial help available for that?
Do we move her into our home or another skilled nursing facility?
She does not quality for Medicaid yet - we are in the process of meeting with a Elder Lawyer and spending down to qualify - burial fund, etc. She only has enough savings to possibly pay for a NH for 1-2 months.
We are new to all of this, her health declined so rapidly over the past 6 months we are so lost and don't even know where to start.