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My mother in law has dementia. She imagines thieves breaking in and stealing her things , accuses father in law of all sorts of ridiculous and calls the police regularly . She has no concept of the value of money or finances. FIL has been taking care of her- refuses any help or interference . Now it seems as if he's showing signs of lack of understanding of finances. He says they are going to sell their house for a ridiculous amount and move to Arizona - where they've never visited. My husband tried to explain that he checked online and the homes in their area were worth much less. My FIL got angry and handed the phone to MIL. He called several months ago asking my husband for money to pay bills but would not give account for why he needed it. He also said they contacted a moving company and they will drop a storage pod off for free. My husband told his dad that nothing is free- it was part of a package you get when you hire movers and if you don't move they'll keep your things . FIL has seemed so clear minded up to this point. They cancell everytime we try to go see them. Anyway my actual question is can this be related to diabities? He hasn't been eating well- told my husband he had a bologna sandwich for dinner.

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Seek Guardian status immediately for both of them, or the husband will really make a mess.
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Dementia can come from different causes. Diabetes may contribute to dementia, but so can other health issues like Hypertension. He could also have a urinary tract infection or some other illness. A medical evaluation would be more likely to determine what is causing the behavior, but it sounds like something is very wrong that is causing him to be using very poor judgment and not dealing with reality. I would be very concerned that he would be taken advantage of or make a poor business deal and lose his home and life's savings.

I'm not sure how much you and your husband want to get involved, but I would certainly take some measure to protect them. Keeping in mind that you have two people in jeopardy.

A UTI can be treated and resolved, but if it's more than that:
These are some things that others have done with all other interventions fail. Some consult with an attorney in the area where he lives to see if you have the proof needed to file for guardianship. You can ask to be appointed or ask that the court select someone to make decisions on their behalf; you may contact Adult Protective Services and reported them as vulnerable adults at risks; and you may show up and try to convince them to let you handle their affairs.

Do you know if anyone has Durable Power of Attorney or Healthcare Power of Attorney? You might discuss what is going on with his doctor. Maybe his doctor can help.

If this is dementia, you aren't likely to have much success in reasoning and convincing him of anything. It just doesn't work very well. Taking control of the funds for protection is imperative.
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