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Hi. We just moved my grandma to ALF and I've noticed that she doesn't get her teeth brushed daily and sometimes she's in the same clothing for two days. She has dementia and the staff say she declined, but she will always decline, if asked. What are reasonable expectations for care in these areas? She also has mild dementia. I want to give her and the staff time for adjustment, but I also want to be sure she's getting the care needed. I go daily to visit and she's been there a week.

There’s nothing wrong with kindly stating your concerns to the director. Be sure to also state some areas you’re pleased with and your appreciation for the staff
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A week isn't long. Sometimes dementia patients are frightened and become combative in new situations. Is she one of those? That shouldn't keep her from getting care because staff should know how to handle it, but learning more about her difficulties might give you better insight into what's going on.
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I had this same issue. My family member was sent to a skilled nursing after a hospital stay. In one week he hadn't had a shower, the only clothes he was on are the ones I put him in or helped him change. LIt appeared he was getting no care other then meals. I felt like I had given them enough time to adjust and it one week asked for an administrator. I vented all my concerns and the next day had a call for a meeting. When I arrived every head of whatever department was there. They actually said in the meeting when family is around they get better care! It turned around immediately and it's much better, but I still stay on it. If you don't advocate for them, they slip through the cracks.
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I'm often 'in the same clothing for two days' myself. How much of a problem is this really?
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