So glad I have stumbled upon this website. How informative it has been! Background: My father was diagnosed with non-amnesiac MCI five years ago. Shortly after my mother left (didn't have a great relationship and didn't want to become his caregiver). He has been successfully living independlty the last five years.
The past few months his memory and mobility have declined. He is in the midst of neurology testing to figure out what is going on. Alzheimers runs in his family, so the outlook is not great.
I have begun to try to get his affairs in order (POA, health care directive) but have realized my mother did none of the things she promised she would before leaving (will, setting up online banking, picking out the eventual assisted living, writing all account numbers down, researching his LTC insurance, etc).
I live an hour away and have three small children and also work. I do not think he should be living on his own anymore or driving, and have begun bringing up assisted living. He is a stubborn man, and all of this is going to be a battle. My mother has washed her hands of this, so I am on my own to figure this out (along with my husband).
My question is: what to start with? Getting access to his medical records? Getting him to give up driving? Moving to assisted living? Any guidance or advice is much appreciated, I realize I asked a very broad question. I just feel completely overwhelmed!