My mother lives an hour and a half from me. She is 87 years old and on a walker because she broke her hip about a year ago. She lives alone in her house with my brother staying at the house three to four days a week. However he is lazy and just makes work (dirty dishes and pans), mess on counters and table. He has personality disorder also. Only helps Mom in an emergency (take to emergency room or doctor). She slipped in the kitchen and fell a week ago. Her ribs are fractured and her shoulder hurts a lot (she gets MRI for shoulder on Monday) She refuses Meals on Wheels. Insists on cooking brother his dinner when he stays over and cleans up cause my brother won't. She has lady come in once a week to clean and do laundry. She says she can't afford any one to cook even four or five days a week. Her maid doesn't cook. She can afford to spend some money right now, but is deathly afraid of not having enough money until she dies and also has to leave a much money as possible for my brother. He can't work. Mental Illness and is on SSI. Subsidized apartment. No one can get through to her. She is rigid. I feel sort of guilty. But I can't do everything for her. I also don't have much extra money to pay for the help she needs. I've been going crazy from her for a bunch of years now. And I just don't know what to do.