My mother has dementia and is mean as a snake. I am very firm with her and never raise my voice. She tells everyone that I am mean to her. I get tired of having to come home from working 9 to 10 hr days, dealing with the fallout of what she had done that day. I take care of everything. I cook what she wants, bake what she wants, take her with me wherever I go, buy her what she wants. I'm bending over backwards for her and my brother tells me I need to be nicer.
I watch my grandson on the weekends as my daughter is a nurse and works in acute care. My mother tells my 7 yrs old grandson that he can't watch her TV and turns it off when my back is turned. She tell him that is my couch and chair you can't sit on it. Go home, this is my home. Which it isn't. I purchased the house so that my mother would not have to go into a home. I tell her that what she is saying mean, but her response is always that she didn't do anything wrong.
I purchased a small tv and xbox. I hooked up the system outside in the gazebo so that he can play in peace or watch tv. My mother goes out to the gazebo and starts again that he is laughing to loud and to stop jumping around while playing the game.
She is never happy and I don't know what else to do. Everybody stopped visiting because of her behavior. My daughter is nice to her grandmother, but my mother is nasty to her. My daughter tries to visit longer, but when she has a terrible day at work (someone dies) she can't deal with her grandmother's bad attitude and leaves shortly after picking up my grandson.