I took care of my mom in my home for over two years. My mother died Nov 4th with me by her side. I stroked her hair, said prayers out loud, told her it was okay to let go, and sang the songs she always sang to us as lullabyes. I would not change any of that. She lived in my home and home health workers and helpers would come and go all day long. Now the house is way too quiet. Since she lived here, there are many, many things that remind me of her and set me off to sobbing. I am still trying to get in insurance payments and pay off any outstanding debt before splitting any leftover money. There is not much left because it was ALL spent on my mother's care and to make her comfortable. My sister, who came once in two years to visit, is claiming I stole the money. My younger sister lives out of the country and even though I have written several letters informing her of our mom's death, I have not gotten one response. I can't call her, she went deaf while waiting to see a doctor in that country's wonderful government health care system. I have lost all of my family and wish I could feel my mother's arms around me again. If you are able, take all the hugs you can, they won't be there forever. How do you get over this? I have had people say "Just be happy." I wish I knew how!