When I was slammed into being my mom's caregiver 5 years ago when she could no longer do anything for herself, everything was a mess. I moved her into a new apartment where she could get her wheelchair in and out, instead of going down steps.
I'm going to be honest when I say I'm an anxiety-ridden person. However, I do take care of the business that needs to taken care of, but I do admit I let a lot of things slide. I don't keep a perfect house, sometimes I misplace things, however things that are needed, I do them and I do them with perfection. I am here for my mom 24/7. I've been with her to the hospital probably a hundred times. Know her illnesses and medications like the back of my hand. I keep my mom free of bedsores. I keep her crystal clean. I am VERY good. Except for some things....
Like her drivers license. I don't know where the hell it is. I used to carry it in my wallet when I first started taking care of her, but since then I don't know where the I put it, it's somewhere, I just don't know where. But... I did get her a new Senior Identification Card that works perfectly for whatever she needs to show an ID for. I also got her a very cute purse that she can keep her things in that hangs around her chest so that I will no longer have to carry her things. This seemed to make her very happy, that she had some things.
But just now... she said "I need to get a new driver's license. Where did you put my old one?" I told her "Mom, don't you remember, I don't know where it is."... My mom is VERY stubborn and also can get REALLY mean. She'll throw a tantrum for an entire day. I'm almost on the verge of crying right now because she just brought this topic up AGAIN when I thought we resolved it by getting her a new ID. Oh lord, how I wish I could find that ID. I have looked everywhere. I don't know where it is. It's expired anyway, and she can no longer drive because she can't move her legs to stand up to get into a car.
What can I say to get her off of this topic?