This certainly doesn't rank among the more serious issues people here have. But I thought there may be people on this forum who can relate to this. My (previously reported nutty mom) moved from the home I grew up in to an independent senior living facility about a year ago. She had had a year before that after my dad died until then to clean it out and get it ready to sell but she never did, then, or in the year since as I have brought her there to help clean it out.
Finally a couple of weeks ago my brother from out of state came and he and another brother and I went at it. It is now getting to the point where it could be put on the market.
But when I think of selling this home that I was brought home to from the hospital after being born almost sixty years ago, I go into a depression and almost cry (Since I am a guy I dont actually get to the point of crying, but almost) Its hard to imagine knowing that house is not there for me.
Heres the thing: I have thought of buying it from my mom and moving in. It is in a different suburb from the one I live in. I have never been married, dont have a family of my own. I was forced into early retirement a couple of years back but luckily am financially secure. I feel the only really stable thing I have had my whole life is that house even though I have lived in my current house longer than the one I grew up in.
On one hand I feel like if I want to use my money to buy the one stable thing I have had in my life, cant I? Sure, maybe silly, but what if that made me happy? What if it didnt? At the same time I think this must be foolish. I have read articles online about people struggling with this.
Has anyone here had a similar issue? Again, I know this is minor compared to what others here are experiencing with the emotions and work of dealing with older parents. I had a dad I loved die of ALZ two years ago (cant believe its been that long, seems I was just on here getting support from people here) and helping take care of a nutty mom so I know part of what people are going through. If nothing else it has helped to just put my thoughts to "paper."