I love my parents dearly [both are in their 90's and live independently in their own home] but it drive me batty when they nickel and dime when it comes to purchases. Being a sharp shopper is one thing, using coupons is good, but my parents tend to go overboard.
I been getting my parents groceries weekly for the past 5 years, I hate driving but I do it, and several times an item was over charged and my Mom insisted I return to the grocery store and get the money back. Or if one of their coupons wasn't deducted, back to the store for a 35 cent coupon. I use to go back to the store, hated doing it.... since this was so stressful for me I finally pretended I went to the store, scribbled on the receipt and dug into my own pocket and gave the money to my parents.
Other day, my parents were looking for a bottle brush, it cost $7.99 and no way were my parents going to pay THAT much. They said they wanted to go to other stores to check their prices. No way am I going to drive over hill and dale looking for a cheaper bottle brush. What part of I hate to drive don't they understand???? Yeah, when I was 18 I loved driving, but not at 68 years old.
Dad wanted me to get a dozen bags of mulch for his yard and help spread it... I said no, told him I am going to pay a landscaper to do that work on my yard as I just don't have the time or energy. Suggested Dad do the same, but he wouldn't. Every time he talks about his yard, he makes me feel guilty... [sigh].
Well, I shouldn't have done this, but when I was taking my parents income tax files over to the Accountant, I peeked into the file...... I thought my parents were being frugal because at their age their life savings was slowly running out. I was totally wrong, with all their extra income they could have hired a full-time chauffer to drive them around.... I was so upset.... all the unnecessary stress my parents have put me though these past 5 years because I the older I got the more panicky I got driving... I now have serious stress related illnesses. I honest believe my parents will out live me.
Lesson learned for everyone out there that has a large estate, please use it for yourself. Don't save it for your grown children if you rely on them, they would be too stressed out to enjoy it.