My Sister and I can no longer call him Dad or say I love you to him. When he’s mad he’s hard to care for at the memory care and to anyone else who sees him or calls. Just our name’s sets him off.
If it angers him, then I may not visit often. When I do, if he gets angry, leave. It will always be your fault that he is there. He cannot be reasoned with. He does not see himself the way you do. He may adjust, he may not. As the desease progresses, he maybe more likely to except the MC as home. Yes, never take him to visit his home.
He does not "hate" you he hates his situation. Help him adjust as best you can. Visit when you can and if it is allowed bring him a treat. If you can take him for a drive or a walk that would be nice but do not bring him home to anyone's home that he is familiar with. He will adjust. Just keep telling him that you love him.
Always reaffirm your love for him, though. He's scared, and he needs to know his anger won't destroy your love for him.
Help him adjust as best you can. Visit when you can and if it is allowed bring him a treat. If you can take him for a drive or a walk that would be nice but do not bring him home to anyone's home that he is familiar with.
He will adjust.
Just keep telling him that you love him.