She clipped the wires to the thermostat so the AC and heat do not work. She keeps shutting off the portable AC and starts ranting about how we need to keep it off. We live here so she doesn't have to go to a home, but summer just started and we have heart issues. She cusses all the time and tells us to leave if we don't like it. I'm in California.
Elders + those with health conditions may be endangered.
Yet, civilisations have existed for eons without aircon. There are many ways to keep cool, wet face-cloths, cool bath/shower etc.
I'm wondering what this is? A preference you want & G'ma doesn't VS a dangerous situation?
Please correct if wrong, ok?
You moved in with your daughter's G'ma - 4 yrs ago.
You are not a blood relative yourself.
It's horribly hot right now.
You report that G'ma has broken the air con.
Who has the responsibility to fix the air con? To keep it on? To pay the power bills? You? G'ma?
** Who's in charge? **
Either way, what would a reasonable person do?
Would a reasonable person fix & pay for aircon if their household members ask for it? Need it?
You can put special lockable hinges on the doors so she can’t go outside etc.
Also, in California you have residency at her house so you have rights. You can put a lock on your door etc so she can’t go in there and turn anything off.
I'd do this quick. You see the temps we're going to have next week? It's going to be brutal.
She has dementia. Up and leaving her completely alone in an overheated home because she demands it isn't really good advice. It's elder abuse and can come with some really bad consequences to you.
A person clipping electrical wires is a danger to themselves and others.
You need to get out of her house and get your life back. You’re enabling her to go on with this charade.
So next time grandma says "leave if you don't like it", do just that and leave.
And then you call APS and report a vulnerable adult living by herself with dementia and no air-conditioning.
You can't fix a broken brain, but you can fix your life and living conditions, and I hope you'll do just that.
I agree, might be time to move out and on with their lives.
You don’t have to live with her “ so she doesn’t have to go in a home .”
Don’t subject your children to this situation .