Two years ago we placed our mother in a residential facility for Alzheimer's/dementia -- one of those locked down 24/7 attended houses with 3 - 6 patients. Her general health at 83 was fine, but she was no longer able to care for herself mentally. My sister and I are in agreement that the quality of her life and her personal happiness has been very low. Thankfully she has been very sweet and easy to deal with overall. A week ago she went into surgery for a herniated bowel. She is still in ICU, now has pneumonia, isn't eating, and her digestive system has not 'restarted.' This is the limbo area before palliative care, I assume? We feel that there is very little chance of her recovering, but the hospital continues to treat her as if that's the goal since she does not actually have a terminal illness. I guess this is just the waiting game, but we so hate to see our mother subjected to what amounts to prolonged agony. The death with dignity concept seems to be just that-a concept.