One of my children will have the gathering at their house, but I am at the point where my wife will not remember she was there, and won't even remember who most of the family members are and will not know or remember where she is she has no short term memory. We will get home and she will complain that she never gets to go anywhere, and we go many places. But it is difficult on me to get her up dressed and out and I am at the point I do not want to do it every holiday. Christmas was good, but Easter, I want to stay home. I want to tell the children that if they want to see us we are here to come visit. But part of me feels guilty. However, I really need to take care of myself I am still healthy and strong, we are both 74 years old, but I know my health will decline also, eventually. I guess the question is, how do i deal with this. Very broad question I know but I like to hear others experiences and take it from there. How do I avoid burnout and take care of my own mental health.