When my sister and I each successively divorced with children our mother opened her home to us with our children. She traveled quite a bit professionally, so she was not there.
Now, in her time of need, we cannot reciprocate, because she is so very difficult. I feel terrible terrible guilt about this and not sure I can ever reconcile. Whether your mother or father, how do you if in same boat? I don't know I will ever NOT feel guilty about. How have you handled these feelings?