Hello. I'm new to these forums, and I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for. Perhaps just to vent. I will try to keep it short, at least as short as I can. My FIL died about two and a half years ago after a bout with lung cancer. Since then, there has been the question of care for my MIL. She is currently diagnosed with low-level dementia (not sure of the official terms), and it mostly manifests as short-term memory loss. She's still quite lucid, knows who people are, etc., so that is good. Within a short time after her husband's death, she moved into an apartment in the town they lived in, and not too long after that sold the house. She suggested an arrangement where she would live with each of her kids for 3 months of the year on a rotating basis. I told my husband I did not think this was a good idea on many counts, including: medical issues; one sister living in Tennessee, halfway across the country from us; we have no room for her to stay long term. She stayed in the apartment for about a year, and since then has spent most of the time living with her oldest daughter and her husband, but that has problems as well. My MIL has some frictional history with all three of her daughters, which has resulted in arguments. My MIL is 82; SIL1's husband is 72 (SIL1 is 62 herself) and does not particularly want to be a caregiver at this stage in his life, and I can't blame him. SIL2 and her husband offered to have MIL live at their house but it didn't last long. In April, MIL and SIL2 had a big fight which resulted in my husband (the youngest of the four kids) retrieving my MIL and bringing her to our house for what turned into seven weeks. My MIL has at last gotten her name on a waiting list for a residence, but there's no real time frame on when that might happen. SIL1 asked us to go on a rotation with her, one month at our house and two at hers, and while we are doing the now, I don't think it's a great idea. My MIL's problems were obviously worse last week (her first with us of four) with the relocation and I'm sure that will repeat when she goes back to my SIL1's. My husband and I are the youngest (i'm 46, he's 48) and we are the only ones with school-age children (8 and 12) at home. We have a 4br house but my husband works at home, so no free room for my MIL. She's staying with my daughter, which is fine for now as my daughter likes having a "bed buddy." I find myself frustrated at the situation in general (e.g., I feel a lot of this could have been avoided if my MIL had not been so insistent on saving money in order to leave an inheritance), although I realize the dementia is not her fault. We can't do much medically as her doctors are not here, although there isn't much to do at the moment. We fear the usual things, such as a fall and a broken hip. I try to get out, and to be fair my MIL is not mean or rude, and does not demand I entertain her or anything like that. I think it's more that I'm tired of repeating conversations (but I do, and calmly), and that I don't think this on/off rotation is really sustainable for too long. Any help and advice would be appreciated. I also realize what I'm looking at here is far less than what many deal with, and my hat is off to them.