I need a break on being a caregiver. Hi all hope that all is well. I have asked this question before on here so here it goes. I am my 95 year old mothers caregiver ( Just me and me me only ) its been a long road watching her change notr being able to do things like she used to. And after her operation she now uses a walker andhas a ostomy bag....That was something I had to learn how to care for this and hoping they do not fall off and have a big mess to clean.up. Well to speed this up I want to plan for respite ( short tern stay at a nursing home usually a week)but my mom will not go she thinks that I will leave her there (which I am not) I know what to do as far as all the paper work goes and where it will be its just make a phone call to them to get this started. I am trying toi wait till spring but some days I just might change my mind. Here is the issue we live in a apt and we have 13 stairs that shehas to go down (and yes she can do it I use a transfer belt to get her down 1 step at time ity looks like we are in a wedding going dow...LOL and she goes out at least once or twice a week.. If she knows what I am up to she will refuse to go and. I tried to tell her what I want to do and she gets selective hearing and will shut me out . I really do want to do this and I am worried what could happen i went through the same thing when we moved to our new place. And I am trying to look for something with a elevator but no luck so far( we have been at this new place about 15 months) and I am month to month now so if I find something well here we go again....I do love mom just want a break and I have other things that I do like my online class for medical coding and I have a child that has a disability but he is in a group home but I still keep up with what he is doing. My plate is very full and its been like this for a long time I do not regret any of the taking care of mom just need to have some me time no cooking cleaning going to get meds ect.....I hope that you understand what I am trying to say and ignore any mistakes I have made.God Bless us all Purplerain.