I have taken care of my husband with severe MS for the last 8 yrs. He has had 3 UTI's in the last couple years and each time he would he would lose his strength. He would go to a NH for rehab which helped. The last time he did not get enough strength back for me to care for him at home. I had to make the decision that he needed to live in a home for more care than i could give him. He has lived there for the last 1 1/2 years but now has become much weaker and is paralyzed accept for his left arm and hand. He has accepted all this and never complains.
We have 2 daughters that work full time and live out of state. This past year i have suffered from stress exhaustion, thyroid/adrenal fatique after he moved to a home. I have seeked help and am feeling better. Going through this i have realized i would like to get an apt. close to my daughters that live out of state but i can't afford to move him in his condition. I feel guilty wanting to do this but i also feel i need to live my life to. The girls are all i have plus one 16 yr old grandaughter. It would be hard to visit him due to the distance i would move to. I divorced him in '96 and we remarried in 2006 he was much better then. Now i feel like i'm deserting him. I can do nothing more for him. I am 70 and he is 73.