My brother is a quadrapeligic and lives with my mom. She gets paid to provide aide services for him. She is very concerned that he continue to live in her home. My mom stated having difficulty working a couple of years ago which has progressed to her using a walker. My spouse and I live 45 miles away from her and take her to all her doctor appointments and get her hair done sometimes more than once a week. We are happy to do it. I love my mother very much and worry about her situation. She is not able to do daily chores. My brothers day aide does most of it. She needs to stop being my brother's aide but the extra money helps pay her mortgage.
My husband wants to move to his home state 2000 miles away. Our cost of living here is killing us. If he didn't have a small home business we wouldn't meet our expenses every month. They leaves both my husband and I very stressed out.
The other issue is we are both in our 60's and my health is very poor. Most of helping my mom falls to my husband.
I have one other sibiling who lives 200 miles away and would not be much help financially or otherwise.
I don't know what to do. I feel torn between caring for my mom and my husband's wish to move. Appreciate all responses.