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So I'm 24 and I recieved a great job that is paying well. I finished college, and I just feel like I need to live my life. I've been taking care of my grandmother for 7 years. It's been getting harder and harder as I grow up more. She's a very nice lady, but sometimes she can be a little too much for me. I love her very much! I've gotten depressed over the years not being able to live my life much because I have to help her all the time...it's making me feel really guilty just thinking about moving out. My aunt (grandma's daughter) comes down to help once in a while, but my father (grandma's son) and sibling NEVER do. So most of the responsibility is on me. I just feel bad, but I want to live my young life...I don't know. Please advice, thank you!

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What help does your grandmother need? List all the things you do for her - daily, weekly, ad hoc - and tell your grandmother's children that they will need to make arrangements for this help to be provided by somebody else. Then off you go, into the big bad world.

Have you talked to your grandmother about your plans, by the way? You may well find that she is, not to say impatient, but certainly expecting you to fly the nest at some point.
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MelMel,
You seem like the loyal type, so when you find your new place to live, looking forward to the life that is before you,
go ahead, take a little moment to feel bad, but not because of anything you did wrong. Then, with head up, be proud of what you did for grandma. Give someone else the chance to know her, and you move on.
It's not like you may never see her again, or visit?
I agree, go and live your young life! Blessings to you!
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It's time for you to live your life!!!! Bless you for all that you have done for your Grandmother. There is no reason for you to feel guilty. Don't back down. If they don't start making arrangements, call you Area Agency on Aging so you can have them ensure that she gets the care that she needs.
Blessings,
Jamie
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You NEED AND SHOULD live YOUR life. Just tell dad and auntie dearest when you will be leaving. Give them a month's notice so they can figure out what to do. Not your problem, someone else's turn now.
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