Mother is 88 I am 62. She is in good health but doesn't drive. Mother has always placed guilt and shame on others to get what she wants. She is self sufficient as much as an 88 year old can be and has yet to use her in home health care. My brother lives 40 miles away and comes when he feels like it. I do all of the cooking,cleaning, dog walking, garbage, errand running,shopping, and relieving her loneliness on top of doing a strenuous childcare job. I am also a 62 year old senior but am not ready to live the life style of an 88 year old. I would like to have a closer commute to work and also go a couple times a week to check in on mom. She also has paid 17 years for in home health care. How do I make this move without feeling guilty and shamed for making my own life decisions? I have spent unending days worrying about this decision. Would appreciate input on how to reassure her living situation.