My Mom has recently had a bout of what they call "delirium" to the point where she swears my father [who died 18 years ago] was leaving messages for her on the home answering machine. Our family [her children] are scared to death of her behaviour, anger and outright rage. She beat her hospital bed with her cane and laughed that the nurse was 'scared'. She told the health care professionals that we, her children, have done 'nothing' for her. From one day to the next the doctor's declared her 'fine' and that she was of sound mind and there was nothing more to do in the hospital, so they shipped her home. What she neglected to say is that we are the one's taking her shopping, banking, doctor's appointments, helping around the house in addition to having home care come in and assist. [we all work full-time in addition to caring for our own families]. The psychiatrist, internal specialist, gerontologist as well as the social worker and transition nurse told us all: "Sometimes you have to let them live "at risk"'. We have done everything in our power. We made sure she has help at home to assist with meals, bathing and medication. She has Lifeline, a service to take her to appointments or shopping, which she refuses and demands that we take her. She's a smoker [obsessively], and loves her sodium bombs [aka all the foods not good for you!] We have had her medication blister-packed [last time in the hospital she was there because of self medicating on drugs and supplements recommended to her by an acquaintance that she 'respects' -- though he has never talked to the family or bothered to ask us about her health conditions] This is the same man who called us to lecture us about not caring about our mother [her words to him, not ours!]. We are at the point where we want to DIVORCE our mother. She's been hurtful, lies and demands us to respond to her needs that she deems are urgent [aka like running out of cigarettes at 11 pm and wants us to go out and fetch her some!] - she calls and tells us it's an emergency and we rush over there to be shown something that she purchased on her recent trip to Walmart with her friend. I can count on ONE hand how many times she has helped me with my children [who are adults now with children of their own]. Why do I feel such horrendous guilt over how she feels about us when we have responded to every urgent call? How do we divorce Mom?