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My husband is disabled. He has conjestive heart failure, copd, severe construtive sleep apnea and now level 2 diabetes. When he falls asleep on the chair, I have to wake him up so he doesn't fall to floor. I have to work ful time and it is unsafe for him to be alone. I've looked for programs that would help for me to stay home full time to take of him. I have no idea where to go or who to contact to help me out. I would so much rather take care of him myself, but don't know where to turn. Any suggestions, ideas would be very appreciative.

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My dad was so used to female caregivers coming to our house to sponge bathe him. One day I came home from work. The first thing he said to me with indignation: "They sent a MAN to shower me!" He kept complaining to me. The gov't caregiver program works by rotation. We've had experiences when dad tried to change the caregiver he didn't like. That specific caregiver continued coming despite months' of his complaints. So, when he was indignant on having a male cg, I just kept silent. He was only covering for dad's regular caregiver.

When I'm off and home when the caregiver comes to sponge bathe him, he changes. He's flirting, making jokes, and talks a lot. Because he likes them, he doesn't give them a hard time.

My dad had contacted the senior citizen department. They assigned a social worker on his behalf. They came to our home, interviewed him and me. They know of other programs/resources. They even have their own elder law attorney if you want to do guardianship or Will, etc....
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Why a male caregiver? I know my husband was always happier with female nurses, and the prettier the better.
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I agree 100% with freqflyer. You might do good for one or two months then when finances get stretched and you get tired and lonely then doubts will begin to set in. Choose a male caregiver which will be a lot of company for him and keep working yourself.
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wyn232, it's wonderful that you wish to take care of your hubby and be there for him all day.

Take some time and read some of the forums here where many thought they were ready for this new chapter in their life and found out it was extremely difficult and quite exhausting. It all depends on you, your own health, your age, and how cooperative hubby would be in the near future.

I refused to quit work, I found I needed to get away for my own sanity, and to be around happy people of all ages. Work gave me a reason to get up in the morning. Work eventually became my *vacation*. Plus I am still saving for my own retirement. So you might want to reconsider about quitting work.

Instead, hire Caregivers to come to your house to watch over your hubby. Maybe a male Caregiver who might have the same interest or hobbies as your husband.
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Thanku very much
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Call your county office of the aging. They will help.
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