I just turned 50 married for 29 years with 3 grown kids and my mom is 82 and always has been emotional abusive. She has 2 favorite older kids and out of 7 children is always pitting one against the other and complains why her children are not close. As I get older I can no longer tolerate her abuse and it takes a toll on my mental health. I have developed health issues and am trying to change my lifestyle and she continues to argue with me when I tell her that she is not supportive in my life. I always have good news to share and she only blocks it out with my siblings problems or hers. Out of 7 kids I am the only one married out of 6 girls and am always helping my siblings and their kids with money which my husband is tired of. I have had counseling recently several times only to come back to my mothers behavior. She puts me down for not coming around after she creates turmoil and blames whoever doesn't give her special attention afterward. I have given her expensive gifts and have always been a giving to her and my family. Even though my husband has been the worker. I am the only child besides my brother who is married and financially stable and kids are doing well. I want to leave her alone altogether and lately because I want change for myself and marriage and family I no longer want to deal with her anymore. As she ages it only gets worse. People often put down siblings that don't help as much as others but often times the ones that don't want to come around are the ones that can't continue taking the abuse over and over that they were raised with.