My mother has been diagnosed with dementia. Stage 4/Alzheimer’s. We are getting by, but I’m stressing. Driving is an issue. I have the keys, but she threatens to drive, and I can’t get anyone else to look her in the eye and say, “No Driving.” My fear is that she could get in an accident and, as her POA, I could be sued for allowing her drive when I know her diagnosis. Valid concern? Her doctor only tells her it is not a good idea. Wimps.
I travel and am gone for as long as 10 days at a time. My mother has refused to accept any sort of in-home help even daily. When I’m gone, I keep things running with medicine reminders, grocery orders and daily meal deliveries. She does not cook. She does not want me to tell anyone when I am out if town. She doesn’t want to have to pay to entertain someone. I have zero support. It’s stressful. A friend told me that was neglect/elder abuse. She flat out refuses to let me set up any sort of Plan B. Could I seriously be charged with neglect/elder abuse if something were to happen when I’m out of town?
My sister will come in to change out medicine during my absence, but she only stays for four hours. She is not easily reached by phone or any other means.
I am going a little crazy with stress.