And cause problems in caring for your loved one? After mom was in the hospital for 3 days in April after 2 falls in 2 days, she was admitted to a re-hab for 17 days. When she came home, she started getting home visits by a nurse. At first a couple times a week and then tapering off to once a week. However the same nurse came each time and on a few occasions decided she was going to change some of me and mom's meds routines based on what mom (who has dementia) would tell her. Each time this happens I have to deal with the aftermath of arguing, accusing and generally poor behavior on mom's part.
The last episode happened just this past week and I'm sick of it. I had taken mom to her GP appt. on Tuesday and he said she was much better than she had been since he had started seeing her. Her O2 level was at 98, had no rales in her breathing and was moving more air through her lungs. He then called out to the nurses station and asked me about her Ativan usage. I had decreased her usage of it after she got home from re-hab because I believe she was getting too much and it was making her dizzy and causing the falls. (She hasn't fallen since). So I told her Dr when and how much I was giving her and he said that was fine and wrote a script for 1/2 of a.5 tab twice a day. I had been giving that to her already at bedtime and in the morning but since she was screaming all day long for more I would give her a quarter of a tab in between...more to shut her up than anything. But also because I didn't want her dizzy and falling again. So the visiting nurse comes in the next day while I'm at work and her caregiver is here and Mom proceeds to tell the nurse that I'm only giving her a quarter tab at the times I'm actually giving her 1/2 tabs. The nurse then takes it upon herself to call moms Dr and ask about the dosage. She didn't even talk to the Dr but the nurse. She didn't call me and ask me what was happening with the dosage or anything. She just told mom that I shouldn't be giving her 1/4. As a result Mom and I have been battling over this since Weds. She won't understand that I was actually giving her a tad bit more than the Dr. said. And only because she would sit and scream and cry for it.
I talked to the home health agency and told them I don't want that nurse back in my house again. I'm tired of trying to fix the things she stirs up. If I was doing anything harmful to mom it would be a different story but I'm not as witnessed by the Dr's comment on the last visit.
Any insight on this is certainly appreciated. I'm about at my wits end and ready to put mom in a nursing home due to the mental stress caused by a nurse wanting to put her nose in where it doesn't belong in my opinion.