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Same argument as to why she can't come home, every single time I visit.

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Iammichele my mother is in a nursing home (Parkinsons, dementia & stroke), unable to sit up or stand and in a wheelchair. For months she's been obsessing about buying another house and getting live in staff (servants) "when I can walk again" which she never will. Her almost daily phone calls, ranting about it and picking fights was making me ill so I changed my phone number.

When she started on it again when I visited last week I just said you need to rest and get better and once you can walk again we'll talk about it. That satisfied her and I'll use that any time she brings it up. I suggest you try something like that to appease her at the moment though I don't think they ever stop wanting to go home.

My mother had a tia again a couple of days ago and has deteriorated so badly in the last couple of weeks that I expect she will pass quite soon.
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everish, my mom is in a nursing home for the past 5 months after a series of moderate strokes and tia's. My husband and I moved in with my parent's 9 years ago I see my mom about once a week, because she is driving me nuts about coming home. I can't handle her and my father anymore here together with their problems. She isn't coming home, even though she thinks she can. My mom has dementia and has to be in a wheelchair etc.
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Iammichelle, I am going through the same thing everytime I visit my mother. I patiently explain why she cannot come home; but as soon as I finish, she asks again to come home. It is like a broken record, over and over again. Redirecting does not work, she talks non-stop about going home.

She has just entered her third year of living in assisted living. She was doing good, then we had an upsetting episode last which brought on her dementia. She is stuck in a rut, and I cannot get her out of it. I only visit twice a week, so she is not dependant on me.

I am in the same boat, but I hear it is very common.
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It might help to know a little more detail about your situation. Like, does your mom live in an assisted living facility? How far away do you live and how often do you see your mom? Is there still a home for her to go to or has it been sold? What are her ailments? How long has she been living where she's living now?
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