A friend who I trusted to be able to help with this issue helped me get Mom into an independent living place. The place told this friend they qualified for Aid & Attendance. Since Mom has only Soc Sec, a sister of hers is floating her until the benefit is approved, an arrangement the IL place encourages.
But the rep at the VA has already told my friend that this IL place will not qualify. The place misled us because on confronting them with this new problem, they've suggested an almost fraudulent "work-around" that neither I nor my friend is comfortable with.
We JUST moved Mom in lightning time from my house to this IL place and now have to try to scramble for another place before the end of the month. The back-up place we found is well-known by my family (had three relatives there over the decades) and is acceptable to the VA but is further away from all of us in another city.
I feel like trying to solve these problems will never end!