Also, what if I can't find Dad's service records? I've just begun learning about Aid and Attendance benefits. Things I've read mention long term care, in home care, etc., but no mention of adult day health care, which is what we need the most right now. Are there restrictions on its use? Mom's house is falling apart around us and has termites, and could use some safety revamps, all things we can't begin to afford right now. Can this benefit be used for home repair/maintenance?
Regarding paperwork, my parents were terrible at keeping records. I suspect I won't be able to find any of Dad's service and discharge records. Will that keep us from being eligible for these benefits?