5 years ago my mom moved in with me because she became blind in one eye, couldn’t drive anymore, and totally relied on neighbors to do things for her. I lived 2 hours away and HAD to do something. She was not ready for a nursing home and at that time it was the “perfect” time to sell her house because a young relative wanted to buy it for years! So she finally agreed but REMINDS ME ALL THE TIME that I was the one who MADE her sell her house and move in with me. At first it was good. She had an attitude (as usual) and she got around good. Now, at 84 she is declining and just was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She blames me everyday for something which I understand is part of the disease, but she always did anyway before. It’s just now, it drives me absolutely crazy!
She refuses to do anything, all she does is her word search. I only leave her alone for a couple hours. She gets mad when I go on vacation with my husband because she goes to stay with a relative. She’ll go but complains afterwards. She refuses to pay for someone to come in and help me, she says if I want to go somewhere I SHOULD PAY FOR IT, and it’s not fair. I actually have to take money from her without her knowing to pay someone. She thinks they are doing it for Free! She refuses to let me take over anything. Money, pills. I just took over her pills but she finds ways to steal Tylenol and take them. I hide them but she finds them. I looked into a personal care facility but she REFUSES TO GO. I took her there for lunch to show her the place and she was rude beyond belief, started to cry and it was just ridiculous. She told me she’s not going to a “Home” and she took care of me and my brother and I’m terrible!
Everyday is something. My husband is a saint.
I do have POA Financially and medically but no facility will take her unwillingly! I’m beginning to dislike her more and more and struggle everyday to not fight with her. HELP