My dad has dementia. He is probably transitioning from early stage to mid stage. He is forgetful and slow, but basically "with it" and functional at home. No problems with most of his own hygiene or daily needs. Does not drive or cook, becoming more dependent on my mom. He is in pretty good spirits, easy going, but concerned for his future. Dad and mom live in a nice home in the same neighborhood I do. Problem: Mom is losing it. All patience. All decency. She is verbally and emotionally abusive to him - cutting remarks at any opportunity. Just becoming a nasty person. All she does is complain about the extra burdens on her. She complains about driving, cooking, cleaning. She makes him feel guilty that he cannot help more. My dad is about 30 pounds underweight. Now she refuses to cook. She is weight obsessed, and says mean things if he eats fatty foods, even though he is way under weight. I run a small business and work 6-7 days a week. I try to have a happy life and carve out short times of enjoyment. Checking in on them is becoming a weight around my neck. My mom is a highly educated woman (that's part of her problem - she always thinks she's the smartest person in the room). My dad told me today "she lets me know she is superior to me, any chance she gets". It's becoming very sad. I spoke with her about it a few days ago, but it seems she's still doing it. No, she does not have dementia (far from it). She's just an emotionally immature person. Thanks for letting me vent.