My boyfriend's mom refuses to use the bathroom and insists on sitting in wet depends. Everytime she develops a uti, 3 days before her physical symptoms appear have an allergic reaction and need to start on medication. The Dr and nurse will order a urine test based on my allergies. About a week ago, it was so bad i had to go to er for the reaction. Therefore, when she has a UTI, I avoid her and will not go near her until she is treated. She gets extremely mad the Dr and nurse listen to me. To make a long story short, she calls all her friends and family tells them im mean and hate her then I have to constantly defend myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this situation?