I know why I didn't cry! She sucked the life right out of me! My Mother-in-law died last week, and at the funeral nobody cried, or even looked distressed that she had passed away. As I scanned the church, I didn't see one soul that looked upset. I knew I wasn't, but I think it's telling to see the rest of the family felt the same way! Even the Pastor officiating at the cemetery, said, "We buried an angel today," and then winked at us! I guess it's obvious that she was awful to everyone who knew her! I kept thinking she was just that mean to me!
I think some people - some families - cry more easily than others, and some deaths are easier to handle because they are... maybe not expected, but more emotionally acceptable, especially when the person is old.
Three examples stick in my memory - the long-suffering daughter seen to be beaming from ear to ear as the mourners arrived; a dog-walking friend who, having just told me it was the anniversary of his mother's death - and naturally I was right in there with "oh I'm so sorry to hear tha-" - added "she was a b*tch, and I hated her"; and, but, then, the son who paid a loving but still honest tribute to the mother whom *everybody* *there* knew to have treated him especially abominably.
Sigh. People, eh? But you know, if we can't manage to be good and kind and true in this world when that's the way to heaven, we're definitely not going to do it just so that people will cry at our funerals.
It's almost never personal, by the way. Gosh it took me a long time to learn that! - but it's true. If someone is consistently horrible to you and you genuinely can't think what you could have done to cause offence, that's the time to check out how they talk to and about others. Pound to a penny it's to do with what they're like, not what you're like.