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One of my brothers was living with her but passed away. My mom asked me if I would move in with her I'm willing to live with & care for my mom but would not be willing to live in her current home. she lives in a mobile home & has 2 bedrooms & 1 bathroom. I am 44yrs old & need to have a place in the home that is "my space" just need to be able to have an area that allows me to have some independence (for lack of a better word). My home has 3 bedrooms & 2 bathrooms which would allow me to have an area to have some privacy. The problem is that there are a lot of things that need to be fixed & some modifications (i.e. walk in shower) which would safely allow my mom to have privacy for self care. is there any financial assistance to help with the cost of repairs & or modifications so I can care for my mom without worrying about not having a place to live after she dies.

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Pollock - others have given you good suggestions. You are quite young to have a mum with Alz. How old is she? Do you have employment inside or outside your home?

Depending on various factors including what stage your mum is at, you are probably looking at quite a few years during which your mum will need care. Caring for an Alz patient becomes very challenging and may require professional 24/7 care at some point. I think it would be wise to research facilities on your area and if she doesn't want to move, in her area. A trial period is a very good idea, even a month, with her or her with you, so you get a sense of the issues you will be dealing with. Some here have regretted moving a parent into their home. It is a good idea to learn ( books, online videos etc) about the disease and its progression so you make a well informed decision. Good luck to you.
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Is Mom willing to move into your house?

Keep in mind that moving in with you would be as big a change for her as moving to assisted living, for example. It may be hard for her to adjust.

I like Rainmom's suggestion of having her stay with you for a couple of weeks before you do anything permanent or drastic to your house. During this time you can also explore other living arrangements for her, in case it becomes clear that living with a single caregiver is not going to work.
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Pamstegma is right in all her advice. It would be a good idea for you to spend a trial week or two with your mother to see what you'd really be dealing with prior to making modifications to your home. Dementia is a progressive disease and you'll need to know that whatever you see on a trial run will only worsen. If you still want to care for your mother in your home after the trial run - check with your local county agency for Aged and Disability. Often grants are available to pay for in home modifications aimed at keeping the aged/disabled at home.
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Do NOT give up your home. Now that brother is gone, I have a feeling you will find out how much the Alzheimer's has actually advanced. Once you know how functional/dysfunctional she is, find a safe housing option for her. NOT your house, but Assisted Living or Memory Care.
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