Hi! My 96-year-old gramma was recently diagnosed with moderate to severe dementia. My 76-year-old mom has been providing some care for her when my uncle (who lives with Gramma) is at work. But the arrangement is proving to be too much for my mom and basically ineffective in terms of providing a good environment for her. Recently, after Gramma took a nasty fall, I had gone to the house to get some fresh clothing and once there discovered that it was absolutely filthy. We solved the problem by bringing in a cleaning team who I worked with for a full 9-hours to bring the house into order and clear away the grime. But my mom and uncle are both too wishy-washy to ensure Gramma bathes, and neither has the patience to deal with her complaints or uncooperative behavior. We decided to look for in-home support for at least 3 half-days per week. Interviewing caregivers tomorrow. So my first question is related to the fact that I don't think my mom or uncle has tried to discuss her condition with her. I don't know that she'd be able to fully comprehend the diagnosis, nor would she likely agree with it, but how can you explain to someone that his or her mind isn't working as well as it used to? Secondly, the caregiver is really non-negotiable, but how can we make it palatable for her? Particularly worried because part of that person's responsibility will be to ensure she bathes, which might be quite a battle.