They are both confused and have difficult time conversing. Promised to take care of each other till end. Still at home with FT home care. Starting to need help with ADLs. Stepfather extreme fall and aspiration risk. Mom is a good fall risk. Both in walkers. Mom pretty much lives in the moment and wants nothing to change. Is getting kyphosis curvature of spine from poor posture abs sitting in chair. Step-father stressing out. Home care already over $100k per year and caregiver company believes we need more hours for care till bedtime each day. Cost is relatively close to memory care when home, prop tax, insurance, car (have to be in own car for appts), utlilities, etc. Don't really get robust program for memory care, activities, exercising as at nursing home. But don’t want to live with other people. Which way to go? They are spoiled now with one on one attention. Worth it to continue increasing costs to just stay at home or introduce them to new place to get settled? They would freak if they knew how much was being spent and would want to cancel all care. But they can’t function without. Feel like we’re one bad fall from their whole world crashing down. Hate feeling we’re just waiting for that and wonder if there's a better way? Stressful!