within reason. As you all know I have my young kids, disabled father, need a job, and care for my grandfather who doesn't live in the same house. Either way I stay at night with grandpa ( unless my job is at night whole new issue if that happens)
8-12 hours a night with grandpa and during the day at least 2-3 hours total off and on ( lunch and dinner). He says hes fine but Mobility issues for one is a big issue..
If 12 hours a night, I only get less than 2 hours a day with my oldest child, cook dinner, help with homework etc.( Considering school starting and me a day time job..) My youngest usually is with me , oldest wont go with us at night. Grandfather benefits by having me there, of course I benefit knowing hes ok and we get a little extra time with him. Of course during these evening hours, hes asleep most of the time!
So 8 hours, I get more time with my oldest and dad, and more cleaning done at my home. But, less time with grandpa and worrying if hes ok.
At this point, I have totaled the cost of home care at various prices and hours, and for the amount of care he will soon need after I work and go back to school, the nursing home will be the same price!!!
What is fair of me and for all my family? I dont want to complain so much, and I get tired and frustrated, but then I think, " One day he wont be here, and I am lucky to be able to spend time with him" And I am lucky in that way, but if I dont get on my feet and spend time with my kids now, I fear my relationship esp with my oldest will go downhill. She needs me too even though she doesn't think so!
You all told me to prioritize and figure out a schedule before, so Im trying and need some honest answers as you all always give me please!