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I am in the process of trying to get guardianship of my mother, she lives at her home with another relative who lives off my mom, my mom had a stroke last year, and does not remember well about the things her caregiver has done to her like steal her money, physically abuse her, keeps a filthy house. Is a convicted felon. My mom thinks this person can do no wrong, she takes up for her to the point of lying to CPS, and adult protective services. I only pray the judge will see this at the hearing. ontop of that my mom is really mad I am doing this. plz pray for me, my mom is on several meds and has several health issues that are not being addressed with this care giver. my mom thinks she has to take care of her caregiver. I am so upset over all this, my mom is depressed, and in pain every day, oh yeah CPS is for the child living there who has not been to school in over a year

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Great answer people. Is there the remotest chance you can get pictures of the filth or get a cctv hidden camera in there to record what is happening. In mere terms of human rights the authorities would have to act but in the UK we have a law that is called protection of vulnerable adults and that is from all types of abuse, physical, mental, religious (ie serving jews bacon within a flan), emotional, sexual and financial to name but a few. once proven you could then apply for guardianship.

I wonder what this person was convicted for and when? In the UK she would not be ALLOWED to care for such a vulnerable person. We have data checks which I know you have in the states surely someone cannot have agreed for them to be caring for such a vulnerable soul.

I am praying for you to fight to win me dear stand up and go for it even if it means removing her to your house temporarily. None of you may read the next bit -grins- if your mum doesn't remember a lot why not invite her to your house for a holiday, forget to take her back and then sort this other person out. If the other person isnt caring she has to pay rent and if she cant afford rent then she can be evicted and then bingo you can return Mum to a safe environment (after the fumigators have been in). I think you might want to seek advice re neglect of meeting your mums daily needs - it seems clear that that is the case.
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I know of a person that done exactly this. They had to fist get the guardianship because of her abusive husband. Then they had to put her into a hospital for a state hospital for a while, then they had to annual the marriage to this person. About a year after that they took her out of the hospital and she lived at home with her brother and mother. In your case, what you could do if you do obtain guardianship, you could first either let her live with you or another relative, obtain a permanent restraining order against this abuser just to force them out of her residence, get her back into her home after a while until the dust settles, then make sure she has maybe a live in caretaker that has experience in nursing. If she has Medicaid and Medicare they should pay for this through a state funded program,. In my moms case it is a place called "Spectrum Medical". If there is a permanent restrain-ing order against this person they can not come within at least a football field of the resi-dence. You can also contact an ombudsman for the elderly person and get charges filed against the person that is abusing her. They will no longer allow this person anywhere around her, and if they are they can be arrested and taken to prison for exploitation of an elderly person. You do have to be able to prove that there is exploitation going on in this case, but you can start by going to your local welfare office and speaking to someone that deals in elderly abuse. Tell them what is going on and they will direct you to whom you should speak to; They will start an investigation into the matter. I seen this happen to an-other person that I know and the man that did this is currently spending 10 years in the penitentiary because of exploitation of an elderly person.
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What a mess, but it sounds like your on the right track with a guardianship hearing. If you succeed, what then? Assited living possibly? To what extent is money the issue here? You need to have your ducks in a row for this hearing. Nif you can afford a lawyer do so. Have as much documentation as possible as to the events that have taken place. And if mom is hurt, angry etc by all this, then so be it . It has to be done.
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Boy, what a situation you are in. Even if you get guardianship, will you be able to get this relative out?
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