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Is it just me or does anyone else have people either ignore them or just look right through them when they are with their elderly parent(s)? I'm talking about people in the family or people who know who you are, but ignore you and talk only to the person you are caring for. I have family members who will step in and RE introduce people that I just introduced to my parents, and the other day a person I knew, did not even acknowledge me or give a greeting, just said " I want to talk to your mom." And then they almost stepped on my toe to get to her.
( I said, ' if you're REALLY lucky you can even talk to me, too!')

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Hi Brandywine, I think that could be it - I'm just considered household help. I've always treated everyone the same whether they were a maid for my motel room or a local big shot business leader. It seems to me that people are getting more rude, because when I was very young, I remember people having manners
Did the dingbat not consider that YOU vote also?
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Yes, I have had this happen to me. Mostly it was when I was household help in someone's home. They came to the door at the house where I was working and they were running for county commissioner. It was a campaign visit. It was my job to answer the door. This candidate said in a very rude way that she didn't want to talk to me but to the lady of the house. Guess who I did not vote for that election and she didn't win anyway. It pays to be nice to everyone.
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Actually I usually have just the opposite happen. Someone will come visit my mother and end up talking mostly to me. I don't like it when it happens, but my mother is rather quiet. I often think about vanishing into another room, but my mother wants me with her. I think it is to cover for her when she can't think of what to say.
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I don't think that would explain when I speak and they act like I didn't even say anything. I don't want a 'spotlight' just to be treated with a little civility and respect
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Caregivers are often relieved to be out of the spotlight, especially if it means being criticized. Two things are happening here: you are doing a darn good job and people are lavishing attention on someone who won't be with us much longer. You'll have the spotlight when your time is short. All too soon.
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