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Dad's brother is very ill. He doesn’t remember him. Family member wants to fly with him to a different state to visit is upset because POA says no.

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DeeAnna, dad’s brother passed away yesterday. He forgot within an hour of being told. DPOA son has made it clear that any future discussions of travel is off the table. Thanks for caring!
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Thefavorite,
Did the family member fly your Dad to another state to visit his brother or did the brother come to visit your Dad? Let us know what has been happening.
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Not a good idea, but doable. I did it twice with my mom, when she already shown some level of dementia. And yes, it was not the rest for me, as she was totally lost in the hotel room, asking where the bathroom many times, but somehow we managed it....hard, but doable
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Perhaps arranging a FaceTime/Skype with ill brother will appease the family member that made the offer?
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The POA made the correct decision.
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Lolololol.....thanks all. I guess I did answer my own question😅
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The son who is POA said no. And the wife is an RN and knows about Dementia. That should be it. Its not doable.
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Thefavorite, take Dad to his primary doctor and ask the doctor for a note saying that Dad cannot travel outside of the area.

Since your Dad doesn't do well in crowds, imagine the panic he would have being locked into an airplane with all those people. He would go into a flight or fight mode.
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Like pamzimmrrt said: "You just answered your own question" "My dad DOES NOT DO WELL in crowds and family member that wants him to travel doesn’t help either parent and would not be able to manage meds appropriately."

What is one of the MOST CROWDED places in the world? AIRPORTS!!!

Your family member is trying to be "thoughtful" or "helpful or "nice" or "kind", but they are suggesting something that is impossible for your Dad to do. JUST SAY NO!!

{There was another post a couple of days ago about a family member wanting to take their 80+ yr old Mom on a plane to see her 80 yr old sister. What is going on that family members are wanting to take their elderly parents to visit someone when the family member most likely never offered to take their parent anywhere before? Guilt, maybe?}
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Well you just answered your own question.. not a good idea!
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Dad lives at home with mom. Has dementia, diabetes and high blood pressure all managed by daily meds. DPOA son and wife (RN) helps with medical and financial for both parents. Dads physically ok but doesn’t do well in crowds and family member that wants him to travel doesn’t help either parent and would not be able to manage meds appropriately.
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So your Dad's brother is very ill and your Dad has diabetes and dementia? A family member (who is NOT taking care of your Dad and is NOT the POA), wants to put your Dad on a plane to a different state so that he can visit someone that he does not remember? While it is a wonderful gesture, it can only end in disaster or hospitalization of your Dad!! Thank God, that the POA said "NO!"

Does the person who wants to do this "wonderful plane trip" know just how sick your Dad is? Where or who is taking care of your Dad? Is he living in a family member's home or in a nursing home? If he is in a nursing home, the POA may have to tell the nursing home that "this nice family member" is not allowed to take your Dad out of the NH for any reason!
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