I have a historically parental relationship with my mom. By that I mean that I have been the parent for the majority of my life and she has been the child. This started in my teen years and has slowly but surely transformed into a tough love situation where I am not willing to bail her out of situations or hold her hand anymore (for at least the last 10 years). Now, within the last month, her health which was already not great has gotten worse and so I need to be more caring. However she is still the same person she was so I find it difficult at times to come to a balance between the tough love that is still necessary so she does not take advantage of me (her medical conditions are not affecting her mental state) and yet give her extra care and support that she needs right now. I do not live near her and so any care/support I provide in person involves at least 3 hours of driving and a lot of logistical changes for my family which includes a younger child. This is additionally why I still need to keep my guard up as I am looking out not only for myself and my mother, but also caring for my family in my home. Any advice?