Been on this forum for over a year. Last year my dad died after a relatively short experience with Alzheimers at age 93. The guy was a saint, partly for putting up with my nutso mom.
My mom is 88, and had been in great physical shape, running stairs like a mountain goat, but has narcissism or cognitive dissonance or OCD or I don't know what. VERY DIFFICULT.
A couple weeks ago she fell the bathroom at the home she and my dad lived in for 60 years and cracked her pelvis. Was thankful as I understand this is better than breaking hip . Has been in rehab for a couple weeks, but needs to leave in a week. The social worker recommended assisted living, and while I see that may be needed for some time, she is too healthy to be in that longer term, she would prefer to go to independent living. I understand probably hard to go back to her home, but indy living may work.
The SW argument is while her health is good, she seems to be nutso (she is) and can't deciding anything or use judgement. I told the therapists at rehab she has always been that way, her whole life. They said that may be, and they are not making a medical or psychological diagnosis but they fear her nutso ness may prevent her from living independently. Arent there routines for going from rehab, to AL, then on to indy living? I found a place where you get an apartment and the apartment is not indy or assisted. You live in that place and get the services you need. No stigma of assisted living, and no having to move when your needs are greater, but they are full. That would be ideal situation. Meanwhile my mom is driving me nuts but that is a subject for another posting.