How to transition from independent living to assisted living/memory care facility?
We live about 7 hours away from my mother-in-law. After much persuading we finally got her to move from her house to a Senior Independent Living apartment. It is obvious to all (including her physician) that she needs more supervision and care as her dementia is becoming worse with each passing day. We've offered to move her closer to us, which she has refused. When the topic of assisted living came up after Christmas she told my husband " Well, you should just go ahead and kill me". She MUST move as we worry about her safety. The assisted living facility is on the same "campus" where she is currently living, so it wouldn't be as traumatic a move as when we got her out of her home. My husband is going to go down there at the end of the month and I just wonder what approach he should take if she absolutely refuses or pulls her
"whoa is me, I have no family here" schtick. She has two other sons. One who hasn't talked to her in over 4 years and another who has been pretty neglectful.I love the woman but she has been stubborn in the best of times. And I know this conversation could get really ugly. Thanks for any advice