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I recently asked the question why does mom think she can live on her own when she can't manage her underwear. Mom is in aricept numenda and transformed as well as Ativan. She is on very low doses so she's not in a stuper. As stated before she is still up 24/7 fights showers. Meals meds everything. Hides wet towels cause 'they take everything'. The sores in her back are from her picking at herself. The sores are only where she can reach the dr has prescribed her medicine that we put on she washes off if we put a dressing on she rips that off. When we sow her blood on her clothes she says it's the medicine. If you say that chair is black she will tell you you're crazy it's white!! Oh my! The AL facility has told us we have to live her that she requires the next level of care. We are heartsick. Mom hates where she is she has a lovely apt that is furnished with her home items living room bedroom bathroom she will leave no soap no towels out nothing. 'They take everything' which they do not at first we would track the item down but have realized even if you find it where she put it she will tell you 'they did it I don't hide things' which of course she does. Bathe drawers in her dresser are full but she has a towel or pillowcase laid over everything so no one can see what is in those drawers. I promise you there is nothing anyone would want. She claims they steal her panties but she has three to five pair on with a poise pad between each one and a depends over all that BUT she is NOT incontinent she will say it's running down my leg but when I check her or the staff does there is nothing nothing!!!! she uses pads for ace bandage on her arthritic wrist and will put on those sites after she washes off the meds. Oh my!!! So we looked at LTC places and she is Truely going to hate it. One room these are all new facilities very nice. She is private pay as well at least for a few years. How do we help her with this transition????? Also she lived with us until she absolutely refused meds would not go to bed fought us at meals to the point of slapping you or throwing water in your face or generally fight about everything. How can we make this time easier for her. Thank you. All of you. God Bless you on your journeys.

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Maybe try looking at Adult Care Homes in your area? Cross between ALF and SNF many specialize in Alzheimers ......much more cost effective Private Pay at least here. Usually 2-4 patients in a family home setting very low patient to caregiver ratio some 2 to 1, so not like an SNF setting. Sounds like she gets around pretty well just needs someone to look after her. What state are you in? I may know some or check with your local senior center or AHCA website...check out their ratings and of course go inspect. Usually 1/3 the cost of ALF or skilled and much nicer, friendly family setting where she can make close friends. good luck and write back if you need any info!
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The only thing I can suggest is an in-patient psychiatric evaluation so that she can get stable on meds.
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