I have been taking care of my mother for 18 months with vascular dementia. Prior to this I took care of my Dad during the last 18 months of his life with brain cancer. I still work full time in the health care field and that does not make caretaking any easier. I have reached my limit (probably surpassed it). I have had caretakers with her for 12 hour shifts when I am gone but as she has accused everyone of pilfering, no one stays. I have found a nice ALF home to accept her that is an Eden alternative. However, the drive is 1.5 hours away. Benadryl does not touch her nor does melatonin. She is on the Seroquel but that does not last. She does not wish to leave her home. I have been accused of lying to her, stealing her spoons and red sweaters, as well as other things. She also has visual hallucinations which are also peppered in throughout the day. I am exhausted and plan on moving her in there in 2 weeks. Any ideas?