Stage 6 alzheimers. It's been getting worse. She's lately forgotten hat happened to her husband who passed away 8 years ago and often forgets how we're related. Should have done it earlier but sibling was fighting me. She can't even remember the name of her care giver.
In my brother's case I gave him a small bank account of his own, as he lived at the other end of my state. He managed this account with my oversite as his POA.
Take care; you are doing the right thing to help your loved one.
IMO it's a lot more difficult to manage a person's affairs if 2 PoAs are assigned. There are bound to be disagreements. I think it's a good idea to show your sibling this thread -- and others -- so that he understands that a person with ALZ eventually doesn't get to drive the bus. Does your brother have a hard time with "difficult conversations" or confrontation? He's a "Yes Man" because it's just easier. That's not what a PoA is supposed to do.
I wish you all the best as you go on this journey with your Mom and brother.
We had to take away my dad's credit card, access to his bank account, and his phone, because he was either canceling things or signing up for things.
He wanted to still be in control over something he had done all his life. But the dementia was causing him to make poor decisions. We had to step in.
I'll say it again--you did the right thing : ).
OP— Five years from now you’ll say to yourself you should have done it sooner. Sad, but true.
Tell her that so many caregivers are talking about her on this website.
So next time...quit listening to your sibling.
If i had moved her into a coop i'd be stuck with a unit i'd be forbidden from renting out by law