Hi, I have been in situations where I've cared for someone who is too needy and have learned to set better boundaries with these types of people. But I am now having trouble knowing how to care for family members who are completely averse to accepting any kind of help or care. They are fiercely independent to their own detriment and hate the idea of becoming dependent. In some ways, I think they prefer death to losing independence or feeling like they are a burden on someone else. In fact they've told me they prefer suicide over being cared for even though they have lost many physical functions and mobility. Instead of asking for help, they just eat unhealthy frozen tv dinners and don't bathe very often because they've lost the ability to cook and chop food due to a wrist break and acute arthritis. They think they are keeping their dignity by doing everything on their own, but they're actually living in a more undignified way because they refuse to ask for/accept help. What are some ways that I might be able to get someone like this to accept care and not feel like they will be a burden?
Has anyone else had this kind of experience?