Hi, I've been struggling with this lately: given that caregivers are taught that patients who are sick and have limited mobility need to feel in control of their experience, and we are taught to be patient and indulging to what the patient needs, and to do things their way, etc, etc, also, since we know that bedridden patients are supposed to be turned or switched positions every two hours at least, here's my honest question: How much is too much? Right now, my dad has literally 4 or us at his beck and call. 4. His wife and his three kids since my younger brother and I are here temporarily. Lately, he's been sleeping more so that helps us, for his to be resting, but when he's awake it seems to me that he's been allowed to be too controlling. Since mom and older bro are his full time caregivers, I was not even aware how intense the situation had become. But since I've been here for a month, it's like sometimes every 30 minutes, or every hour, or every two hours he needs something. Is this normal? Is there any way that caregivers have of being able to get a balance with the patient? I mean, of course he can't do for himself, so we literally have to be like servants to him, but it seems every now and then, to me, like he abuses it a little. He'll have us doing several things that are important, like meds, and food, and adjusting him in the bed, which takes three people now, and then, when everybody is done and trying to get their own breakfast, he calls us back in for little things like, can i get a some ice in this juice, or can you take this dirty dish back (we're not neglecting him by leaving stacks of dirty dishes by any stretch of the imagination), or could you scratch my back, etc... and all those seem like legit needs too, but honestly, I didn't eat breakfast until noon time and then nearly burned the bacon because we had to keep going in there for each thing. When he's getting adjusted in bed, he'll keep insisting that there is a crease in the (very thin) pad he uses under him on the bed, and my brothers have to re-initiate the hour long shifting with pillows under everywhere, etc trying to roll him around while I try to find the tiny tiny almost imperceptible crease somewhere. Is this normal, caregivers? How do you cope? I know he can't do any of this for himself, but are all patients this seemingly demanding? I guess those of you whose loved ones have super limited mobility might be to whom I'm speaking most directly. People talk of elder abuse, but is there such a thing as an overly demanding patient? But whose demands are on the one hand reasonable since he can't do it for himself, but on the other hand they seem like they don't realize four people are waiting on him hand and foot, and sometimes he won't wait for someone to have or finish their meal because he's like, it really hurts, and I feel bad for him but I am also feeling like he could also be more flexible, except for that mandate to caregivers that they must give the patient control because they are so disempowered.