My father, who lives with me, had major surgery in October and has done very well in rehab. He will be coming home this weekend. He has his own first floor bedroom and bathroom about 10 steps away. We have a large home and the rest of my family resides on the second floor.
Before he had surgery, we caught him urinating in a flower vase one time and an empty milk jug. He explained that he was in too much pain (this problem has been corrected by the surgery) to get up and go to the bathroom. I explained firmly that this was not acceptable and that he needed to use the bathroom like everyone else.
In rehab, once he was able to get up and go to the bathroom, he has at times resisted that and continues to urinate (sometimes) in the container the facility provided him. I have explained to him, again, that when he gets home he will have to get up and go to the bathroom. His doctor has confirmed that he will be physically able to do this. Dad has no incontinence issues.
When I visited with him earlier this week, he told me to make sure that when I bring him home to ask the rehab facility if he can have a urinal to bring home. I explained, again, that he was not going to be going to the bathroom in his room. His response is to fuss about it and say, "Well, I might not be able to get up in time," etc. and then shut down the conversation.
Dad does not have dementia or Alzheimer's, but does have some sort of bizarre fixation with always feeling a need to urinate and having a fear that he cannot.
I have regular caregivers (OT, speech therapy, etc.) coming to our home as long as they are needed, and I know I will be able to get them to remind him of this. I was just wondering -- has anyone else been through something like this?
I am to the point where I feel like telling him if you can't go to the bathroom like everyone else, you are going to have to find another place to live (which is, in reality, not a financial option for me). Thank you --