There are four children. My mother, a widow, is 93 years old and is now living in a care home in California. Years ago, my father and mother set up a Trust with only one child named as the Executor of the Trust. (She is a California attorney.) They named another child as POA for healthcare. (He is a practicing physician in California. ) I am the oldest child and was not named for any position. The other child has a Ph.D and works for the Center for Disease Control (CDC). He and I have not been named for any of these positions. He is not demonstrating much interest in the estate or the care of my mother, as far as I know. However, because of the lack of communication among the children, I am uncertain how much interest he actually is showing. I have shown very much interest in my mother's care and in the estate and how it is being handled. However, the Executor of the Trust (the attorney) is acting privately, but saying she is acting "professionally." From my point of view, she is taking advantage of "being in charge" by telling me "the way things are going to be," without developing my input as a team member and as a family. She recently sent me a letter, pointing out that I do not have the POA for Healthcare, and that therefore, I may now call my mother rarely and that I also may not ask the caregivers or the doctors anything directly pertaining to her personal and medical care. In fact, she states that if I do, I will jeopardize the care of my mother in the home where she is located in California. (I live a great distance from my mother, being outside of California, so I must rely exclusively on the phone, in order to reach her or her caregivers and to be able to enjoy the pleasure of her companionship and conversation.) I am very sad that my mother is near death, and that she is losing her memory. When I call her, I believer I help her understand and grasp her present circumstances better. (She has been moved three times during the past five months, by my brother and sister who hold the POA's, and she has been greatly disoriented following each move. My mother and I have very meaningful, personal, and spiritual conversations, and we did so last week, until my sister (the attorney and Executor of the Trust) wrote to me. (I am a pastor's wife.) I am sad because the two children who have POA's will not share frequently and personably with me about what is going on; nor have they offered to permit me, as a family member, the access to the doctors and caregivers which I have demonstrated that I would like to have. Rather, they have "slapped my hand" for asking the caregiver and hospice company only two questions last week. They unilaterally selected the caregiver, the home, and the hospice company for my mother. Are there any arrangements which might legally and easily be available to me, if I were to ask: 1) my brother who is the doctor, or 2) the Hospice Company, and/or 3) the care home where my mother has recently been relocated? Are there any legal avenues which I may follow, also, to become more educated on the terms of the Trust which my father and mother set up?